How does one’s family get reimbursed for the amount of time of their absence?
Once we’ve created a family that is where our personal journey ends and our collective journey begins. Our family is what we begin fighting for, striving for, building for, and living for. Our mission in life just became bigger!
The New Mission must be completed with them, not for them, not for yourself. The New Life Mission should not just be about one side of the spectrum, all members must be involved and there should be a balance of resources so that all members are comfortable and feel included. There’s no such thing as sacrificing one for the other. We all take sacrifices as a whole. Just like the Body if one organ is off, the entire body feels off. If one member of the body is dysfunctional, the entire body becomes dysfunctional. Every piece of “The Body” works hand in hand and interdependently with one another. Therefore, the entire body must be taken care of and properly functioning.
The Visions are huge, yes, but remember who and what you’re doing for. As we begin to fulfill each task and goal along the way, success can be measured by how successful we are or by how much work we put in. When measured by work, that can cause an ego trip. Just because someone decided to put in more work than another member, the human ego tend to want more credit and recognition for the work. It is important to spread the work out; no matter how much effort someone thinks they can handle; every member was born into the family to perform a specific task. We must allow the one created for that role to handle their position. That way they are not suffering lack in their abilities to perform, and the weight of the work can be distributed evenly. That way it leaves no room or space for anyone’s ego or pride to take over the functions of the entire family.
During our journeys of building a structure and foundation for our families, there are times where we must be away from them in order to do our part. Our absence can be heavily felt. The adjustment period may throw some things off, cause others not to grow or evolve as they wait for our return, and/or cause some members to act out of character. During the most difficult moments, we must take heed, even if we are thousands of miles away, some members can discern danger. Once we receive that call, even if it’s during our most important opportunity, FOR US, or our biggest milestone, that we can perceive, sometimes, before we take that opportunity, we must take a step back to reflect.
We have to remember that we are doing our part for the whole of the family. No matter what we’ve accomplished on our own, how many rewards we’ve received, how much favor or honor we get, or how special the outside world makes us personally feel, always keep in the back of your mind that IT’S NOT ONLY ABOUT YOU!!! Taking that step back to reflect and check in on our family can save us from catastrophic moments. The Moment you receive that call from them, LISTEN TO THE WORDS THEY SAY ATTENTIVELY. For they can be your saving grace. You may need to PASS THE TORCH and return home!!!
We are given helpmates for a reason. We bare children for a reason. Our helpmates are our eyes and ears when we can’t see or hear. Our children are the embodiments of the issues that were too big for us to solve on our own or missed the opportunity to engage in. For stress is eased by them. Security lies with them. Protection is of your family. The love on the inside of your home overpowers the hate of the outside world. We lead by Example. We do not contradict our lifestyles to cause confusion to our family members. Exposure of inadequate truths can be devastating.
Absence matters just as much as our presence. What we do in the absence of the children reflects our character. Whether in their face or behind their back, what they hear, versus, what they witness should strengthen and support the truths about what they know in their hearts to be true about their parents. What we do in the absence of our spouse reflects our entire relationship. Whether in our face or behind our backs, the sanctity, the intimacy, the bond, the vows, the trust, should never be tainted, broken, or suffering lack. If the road places too much pressure on us, take that step back.
The world can always wait because the fight towards correcting injustice is an ongoing battle. We swim, we dry off, we speak, we let it marinate, we travel, we return, we have ups, we have downs, we win battles, we lose battles, yet, in between all things, before and after, remains our family. Get back to them as much as possible! They are our strength to refuel us, or they are our signs that it’s time to move on. The road can get quite lonesome, and when lonesomeness gets the best of us, we may fall into a trap that we can’t get ourselves out of.
Let’s not be tempted by loneliness. Your strength is created and enhanced there. Loneliness implies that a torch must be passed, your spark has died down. You need a moment of rest. Some people engage too much and run past the finish line too soon, they disqualify the entire team, their focus was beyond their duty, so they’ve overstepped their boundaries. Sometimes that is okay. A loss leaves moments for reflection, readjustments, and replacements. That’s not to say that you are losing your spot, it means you are transitioning to a position that fits you better in the latter part of the journey.
Success in one avenue does not mean complacency, it means we have overcome a level or portion of our lives that was meant for us to complete. It means we level up to a higher level of authority or take a step back to see what we’ve missed and gain clarity to be able to try again or move forward. We learn to pace out our journey. We rise, we fall, we rise, we fall, we rise again, each time better and better. However, if we never fall, how can we rise. To rise is a decision formed by the entire family, it is not a single act or single decision, it is a decision made by the whole of the family. Always return there, never leaving a member out of the decision that can cause a lasting effect on the whole entire family!!
With Agape, Loyalty, Honesty and Respect, Be Blessed with the Love of Family My People!!
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