Did you feel that shift in Energy? Leaving that comfort zone wasn’t easy, but you did it!!! I guess the energies of exposure made it easy to recognize why one should walk away. People have outgrown the drama and the chaos. People are welcoming in peace. We’ve settled for what was wrong. Now it’s time to settle for what is right.
Even when it’s the most uncomfortable position or place, why do people choose to stay in toxic situations?
The Answer: People choose to stay in uncomfortable places because it’s the most they’ve ever had. Due to the amount of drama, chaos, and inability to focus enough to lead their own lives, they choose to settle for what they don’t have to work hard for. Coming out of that place seems even more scarier to risk. People don’t want to be attacked anymore after being sabotaged all the way to making it to that point of having a small sense of stabilization, one that they can tolerate.
Even while being in that uncomfortable position, there’s still work to be done. There are still lessons to be learned. The longer you ignore the red flags the harder and more detrimental it will be to leave a situation that was meant to temporary but one you’ve decided to make long-term. Why do people do that? Well, it’s simply because they do not want to do the work necessary for them to grow or they don’t want to admit that their decision making was wrong despite what everyone around them has told them. The best decision would be to work towards your own independence as you stabilize.
To face the shame and walk away to a real victory or sit in shame trying to prove that you were right… 🤔 makes everyone involved wonder!!!
We all have witnessed a previous cycle of a good man or good woman providing for an undeserving partner because of reputation, or fear of judgement or loss. We’ve all witnessed them all sit in their failure of choice with their rose-colored glasses on believing their own lies. They convinced themselves of the assumption that everyone who tried to give them better advice to choose better were all haters, that no one wanted to see them happy, when we all knew where their true happiness lies. People can lie but energy does not. And remember the worst thing that you can do is lie to yourself because the lie sits within and eats away at your soul!!
This particular energy we are witnessing now is between the Nurturer and Child. In layman’s terms the Single parent and child. For example, when the woman is the head of the household, having to work towards all of the victories needed for both mother and child, with so much time away from the child, what happens to the child? What happens due to the imbalance of masculine and feminine energies? Who does the mother and child depend on to be the example of masculine energy? How much is left for the child to do and learn on their own?
The home should be a place of privacy where the mother nurtures the children and provides a safe place for them to work towards their goals, filling their minds and bodies with things that they can later on share with their friends, as they go out into the world planting seeds for their future.
How does a mother stomach the buildup of facts that they have born their children into situations that doesn’t provide a total safety net as if and when they were carrying the child in their womb? How does a mother stomach having to sacrifice making the best decisions in quality of life, neighborhood to live, food to eat, education provided and so on for low quality downgrades due to financial constraints? Who could the mother depend on for help in a time of need that doesn’t demean her efforts of trying, force her to have to sacrifice her body, or doesn’t spread lies and gossip behind her back? What happens to a mother’s system when they are forced to do it all, alone, just so that she can keep her peace of mind?
The most important question is that when a mother or any single parent decides to do for self and stay in the comfort of their own home and lane, away from family, friends, crowds etc., how can they maintain their distance without having other people be bitter behind their absence? Sometimes we’re forced to be absent, other times we NEED to be absent.
People have their own work to do. One cannot be involved with every facet of people lives. We must leave space and opportunity for people to learn and grown on their own accord. We leave space for mistakes, because everyone cannot learn through word of mouth, some people must learn through experience. They must know how some things make them feel in order to learn that they don’t want to feel that way again.
How well are you prepared to handle the absence of people you have become so attached to and codependent on? How high will that blood pressure rise within you watching someone walk away? Will you sabotage their efforts of heading in their own direction, or will you let them be? How can you work with other family members and friends to benefit your home, providing equal give and take, and making sure that that is everyone’s objective? Let’s face it, the reason why most people walk away is because of an extreme imbalance and lack of equal give and take. They must go where they are able to replenish themselves.
Knowing that, how do you think you look in God’s Eyes?
A moment for the Negative Nancy’s and Bitter Boys….
As a person who caused imbalance in the lives of others, especially single parents and children due to your own selfish needs wanting to be fulfilled or the jealousy of seeing your partner work out with someone other than you, what type of influence do you think you portrayed to the world or to your own children? What example are you setting? What made you believe that something or someone better wasn’t waiting for you had you let that one person go whom you didn’t really want to be with? What type of reputation do you feel that you really have in the community? What are people really saying about you that you do not know about, behind your back, knowing that the relationship you clung to wasn’t what was best for you? What role did you play, what karma is headed your way once the single families’ lives become balanced beyond what you thought you could control?
Look at the foundation you have built. What does home mean to you? Do you know your birth family’s cultural values? Do you use them, share them, or pass them down to the next generation?
For the men, what are your perceptions of a woman, a mother, a wife? Describe and break down your ideal version, then compare it to your reality? Getting back to your core values, are you willing to change and go for what you truly desire, as opposed to what other people ideals are of what you should have and what you should experience?
For the women, how do you want to be looked at as a mother, a woman, a wife, or a motherly/womanly figure in your community? Sometimes we live a lifetime where we aren’t meant to be mothers because we are needed to fill in the blanks of nurturing unwanted children or orphans. Balance must be maintained.
For Both Men and Women: what examples are you setting for those whose lives you influence on a regular basis? Women are the stronghold of the family; one must assess whether or not they are operating for themselves or for the family as a whole. What is the woman doing or giving into the situation that a man can come to and protect? What structure is set by the man for a woman to build upon?
EXPLORING THE “TUFF” QUESTIONS
There is always a part of yourself that you tend to hide, feeling as if you may outshine others, or be judged negatively while you are in the spotlight.
Ask yourself does the Sun Hide? There’s enough Sun for Everybody, right?? That means there’s enough space for everyone to have the light shined on them. Enjoy it when it’s YOUR TURN!!
- What are some things you need to work on alone? What are some things you need to work on with others?
- What are some immediate mishaps that you know you need to work on or overcome?
- Are your next action steps coming from a preventive standpoint or are you redefining how you operate and move?
From the time this is posted we have a few days to explore this energy until we experience another energetic shift.
Learn how to shine your light, you influence more people than you know.
Be careful how you view yourself, you become responsible for people and children mimicking your unhealthy, toxic, or good style and behaviors!
👑With Agape, Loyalty, Honesty, and Respect Be Blessed with the ability to balance households My People❣️
Invite The Truth 